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IM & Chat Rooms
Instant messaging - as well as other venues for Internet "conversations," such as chat
rooms - presents its own risks for your kids. And that means these technologies
still more challenges for you as a parent. Using them, your kids can instantly
themselves connected to someone who doesn't have their best interests at
heart - whether
it's a cyberbully, a thief, or a predator. Fortunately, as with everything
discussed, there are precautions you and your kids can take to reduce
- Start with a "screen name" that won't personally identify you,
isn't gender-specific, and
isn't sexually provocative.
- Set up your IM system so you're visible only to people you've
put in your contact list.
- Don't communicate with anyone you don't recognize. If a stranger asks
to be added to
your list of friends, contacts, or buddies, say no.
- Don't share your screen name with strangers, and don’t allow it to
be listed in public IM
- Don't provide any personal information to the people you're chatting
with (just as you
shouldn't send them personal information by email).
- Don't send photos of yourself to people you don't know personally.
Also, don't use your
IM system's option to include a photo along with your name when you send
Instead of a photo, use a movie or cartoon character, or adopt an avatar!
- Don't accept or open any pictures or other files you receive from someone
know personally in the "real" world. And don't connect to any
Web address links a
stranger sends you, either.
- If you use IM on a public computer, make sure you turn off the feature
that logs you in
automatically. If you don’t, the next person who uses the computer can automatically
in as you.
- Find out whether your anti-virus software is screening attachments in instant
that feature is turned off, turn it on; if it isn’t available, consider
software that can screen those attachments.
- Never meet anyone in person that you've met only through IM or in a chat
- Just as you want to be treated nicely by the people you’re speaking with,
nicely, too: don't start online arguments ("flame wars"). Never
insult anyone, and if
someone insults you, don't respond: block them.
- Be careful about displaying information about your status. For example, you don't
thief to know you're "on vacation".
- Be aware that if you (or your kids) use IM systems at work, your employers are
permitted to read their messages.
- Remember that once you send an instant message, your recipient can easily forward
anyone else they wish. Don't write things you wouldn't want to be
forwarded - and don't
send images or videos you wouldn't want to be forwarded, either!
- Finally, learn how to store copies of your instant messages, in case you ever
need to work
with the police to track a "bad guy" who's been conversing with
you or your kids.